The Big Day premiered on 14th February 2021. We meet 6 couples in this 3 episode long docuseries namely Aman Kapur and Divya Khandelwal, Tyrone Braganza and Daniel Bauer, Nikhita Iyar and Mukund Chillakanti, Ami Pandya and Nithin Zacharias and Aditya Wadhwani and Gayeti Singh.
The Big Day is another show in Netflix’s marriage reality show collection and it’s not surprising that the show is currently trending in India. Marriages are one of the major facets associated with Indian culture, you talk about India and you instantly spring to its marriage rituals. So, does The Big Day provide a realistic picture of Indian rituals and brides and families? Well, NO. There is no denying the fact that the show is engaging and I enjoyed it but it’s just not real.
The show never exactly dives into the Indian culture and just stays on the safe and rich side of the waters. There are various moments that’ll make you smile with these couples but it’s just blinding, shiny, obsessive privilege.
Political opinion, money, cast privileges, class division, LGBTQ+ struggle in India, and every such important socio-political aspect is omitted from the series and this is where the problem majorly lies. You get tired of seeing these people blindly bathing in their richness fountain and yes, they sound very environmental and sensible but then there are these lavish marriages with what they call “village aesthetic”. It’s dubious, yes.
The Big Day is a distraction in every way you could think of. Though my favourite part of the show was Tyrone and Daniel getting married and celebrating their love, there was not even a single moment dedicated to the fact the LGBTQ+ community in India is hands down suffering. It looked so easy-peasy when it’s just not!
Not everyone has the same resources and big money with foreign roots to get married lavishly in India. It’s like the show and the couple in it are just promoting one idea of being and that is just being rich and it’s sadly suffocating. Only one bride in the series talks about how everybody does not get to be the person they are and that’s on privilege and she is grateful for that.
But other than that The Big Day shows the bride not as a commanding partner but as obsessive brides who won’t even let people dance to their favourite songs because women are taking charge obsessively, I guess? The power dynamics are way more intricate than this but well, we don’t do that here – showing the truth!
While choosing what people want in their marriages is a choice, you see people saying things like we wanted Indian culture and roots and blah blah and in the very next moment they say things like – they don’t want henna, or kanyadan, or the want to not associate themselves with a specific religion because their parents didn’t pressurize them into doing so. Yeah, this right here, that’s called privilege. Study your privileges and just accept them.
And you know, what adds to the drama? That all these upper-class so-called progressive rich Hindus (who don’t follow the religion by the way) end up bringing a Hindu priest to officiate the wedding. But we are not talking about religion here, lol. Regressive progression? Here we come.
Stream It or Skip It
STREAM IT! Everybody should stream The Big Day once to form an opinion. And the show is enjoyable, yes, but if you are ready to watch it despite its blinded approach. There is so much to talk about here but there is so much that’ll still be left. Your privileges are not supposed to make you blind. I am happy for these couples, I am glad they are stable enough in their lives with their co-dependent yet independent relationships making it a good blend. My complaint is only with the blinded approach. I wish all these couples good lives ahead and a bit more sense.
The question The Big Day leaves me with is that for how long will they live in this rich protective bubble while India burns and people suffer every day? Update yourself about struggles and the current state of affairs rather than these rich people’s affairs.
The Big Day is now streaming on Netflix.
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